Articles on psychotherapy, emotional wellbeing and personal change

Reflections on anxiety, relationships, grief, life transitions, body, identity and the work of therapy.

Therapy as a Place for Complexity

Therapy as a Place for Complexity

“Life is full of paradoxes, as roses are of thorns.”
– Fernando Pessoa

My thoughts after this week of psychotherapy work: how much comfort certainty can bring. And how much it can sometimes rob us of the fullness of life.

Psychotherapy, Counselling & Coaching | Esher, Surrey

How Psychotherapy Works: Why Relationships Heal

How psychotherapy works is something many people wonder about before starting therapy. What is it about sitting with another person and talking that can make things feel different?

From the outside, psychotherapy can look quite simple. Two people meet regularly and talk about what is happening in your life, your relationships, your feelings, your past, your worries, your patterns. But therapy is not just a kind conversation. It is not only empathy, reassurance, or someone listening politely.

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Identity Change in Women: Discover Your New Self

Identity change is one of the most profound psychological shifts a woman can experience, and it often emerges during major life transitions. Whether it’s motherhood, divorce, career change, or a combination of these, these experiences can stir emotional upheaval, self-doubt, and a deep questioning of who we are now versus who we once were. Understanding the psychology of identity change is essential for navigating these intense periods with strength, grace, and self-compassion.

Emotional eating

Understanding Emotional Eating in a Wider Context

When it comes to stress and emotional eating, most people believe the problem lies in willpower – as if the solution were to ‘eat less’ or ‘try harder’. But in truth, emotional eating is rarely about food. It’s about emotions, relationships, and the invisible messages we’ve absorbed over a lifetime.

Body Love and self-care

Our Relationship With the Body as We Age

Our relationship with the body is one of the longest relationships we will ever have. It begins before we have words, and it continues to change throughout our lives.

And yet, many of us do not really know our bodies. We know how to judge them, compare them, dress them, feed them, push them, control them, punish them, improve them, hide them. But do we know them? Do we listen to them? Do we recognise their language?

Why do I keep binge eating

Why Do I Binge Eat? Dieting and the Binge Cycle

In this blog post, I will explore one common factor that can contribute to binge eating – restriction – and offer some starting points for understanding and changing the binge eating cycle.